Ben’s heartfelt 26 kilo journey
In October 2017, I was in a very dark place. I had always helped others and directed them to the areas of assistance they required, but here I was lost, bullied and not knowing who to turn to.
December 1st I stepped on the scale for the first time in two years and was stunned. I weighed 136kgs. Yes, I’d put on 20kgs since shattering my arm, elbow and shoulder!
I was using food and alcohol as my comfort. Each day I’d look in the mirror thinking I’m not too bad, just a little padding….. but this was way more than I thought.
I was mad at myself. It really just hit me and I thought, ‘You’ve got to do something. You’re supposed to be a role model to your kids and at this rate you won’t be around to see their 18th birthdays’.
I was “bulky” as a kid, but as long as I played sports my weight wasn’t out of control. After the arm wrestle, I stopped being able to train like I had in the past.
After stepping on the scales, I had 2 options..
1. Keep eating and drinking my emotions away or
2. Stop feeling sorry for myself and make that change no matter how hard it was going to be.
I made 2 phone calls. One to an old team mate @shannan_mcphersonpt and the other to @bodyscience. I bought a rehab program from Shannan and #bodyscience allowed me to understand what I was required to eat and #supplements I needed to add into my food plan.
At first, I felt too embarrassed to join a gym so I started walking at 4am. The first day I could barely go a few kms. I was huffing, puffing, cursing and I said, ‘I am just going to be fat.’”
But I walked the next day and continued to believe. The first month, I dropped 4kgs. The second month, I shed 3.5kgs. The beginning of March I knew I couldn’t do this alone, so I joined Tribe Social Fitness. By June, I had dropped just over 15kgs. Now, I attend the gym five days a week, walk on the weekend and have dropped 26kgs!!!!!
I am now stronger than I ever thought I could be after the accident. I never had any confidence and now I see how far I have come and what I’m able to achieve if I put my mind to it. I know I can’t do upper body workouts, but I can run. I can ride a bike. And, I take these small victories.
My tips for others wanting to start their journey….
1. USE CLOTHES AS A TOOL.
When I began, I’d buy a T-shirt that was too small for me. The smaller clothing would motivate me.
I would be a 3X and get a XL shirt, knowing it wouldn’t fit, but knowing one day it would. I would try it on all the time until finally I could wear it.
Now, if I was feeling discouraged, I would turn to my old clothes, pull them out and put them on and see how far I’ve come.
2. DON’T STRESS ABOUT THE NUMBER.
I started dropping a few kgs a month and I’d get excited to go on the scale. But when the numbers on the scale weren’t moving as quickly I’d feel discouraged. Instead, I decided to judge my success on how much energy I had each day and the sessions I was able to complete.
3. FOCUS ON YOU
Don’t compare yourself to others. It is so easy online. Celebrate you and the success you have had and how far you have come.
I want to finish this post by giving a big thank you to all these legends. Picko, Greg and Shaz from Bodyscience, Paula and Mick from BootyNBuff, my training partners at Tribe, friends and family. You have saved me as a person!
Thank you #gratitude
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- 2 Inbody scans
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